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I’ll be talking about this for the rest of my life!⁣⁣
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Our generation (and future generations of parents) will hopefully teach our kids to not accept poor behaviour from others regardless of what their values are.⁣⁣
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Teach the kids that they matter and so do their choices. ⁣⁣
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We’ve been conditioned and bombarded with all these stupid societal norms that so many girls and women think they can’t possibly dare to talk back or cut someone off and on top of that, if they did, they feel bad for it.⁣⁣
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Time to move on from that shit! ⁣⁣
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All of you matter and so do your choices.⁣⁣

⁣ This is something I just won’t do again and

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This is something I just won’t do again and I hope you won’t either.⁣
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I saw this phrase somewhere and it rang so true to me that I wanted to share it with ya’ll.⁣
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"𝗪𝐡𝐞𝐧 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐚𝐯𝐨𝐢𝐝 𝐜𝐨𝐧𝐟𝐥𝐢𝐜𝐭 𝐭𝐨 𝐦𝐚𝐤𝐞 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡 𝐨𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐨𝐩𝐥𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐚 𝐰𝐚𝐫 𝐰𝐢𝐭𝐡𝐢𝐧." - 𝐁𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐞 𝐁𝐫𝐨𝐰𝐧⁣
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I’ve been there before and every time I avoided conflict to manage someone else’s feeling, I felt like kicking myself after.⁣
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It was almost never worth doing because every time I was at the receiving end and these people I was trying to protect, not only they didn’t appreciate it, they thought I was weak or scared!⁣
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What they didn’t know is that I can have conflict for breakfast, that’s how comfortable I am with it.⁣
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𝐍𝐞𝐯𝐞𝐫 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧...⁣
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I am not scared of confrontation and whoever is looking for one with me, will find it one way or another. Don’t confuse this with being offensive. ⁣
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Regardless of how someone approaches you/me, there is always a respectful way to handle it.⁣
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The best part is that since I chose my internal peace over other people’s feelings, hardly anyone wanted to start beef with me. ⁣
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I’m all about fairness so if people aren’t fair with me, there will be consequences. I also know there will be consequences if by any chance I’m the one who’s unfair.⁣
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Women are not encouraged to do this. In fact they are discouraged from speaking up about anything that upsets them and also from putting themselves first for even a second.⁣
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𝐈 𝐞𝐧𝐜𝐨𝐮𝐫𝐚𝐠𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐭𝐨 𝐟𝐨𝐫𝐠𝐞𝐭 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐫𝐭 𝐩𝐮𝐭𝐭𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐩𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭. ⁣
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Anyone who has a problem with that doesn’t deserve to be around you.⁣
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Agreed?⁣

⁣ Get used to doing the things you want and goi

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Get used to doing the things you want and going for the things you want.⁣
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If you don’t, it’s only you who will miss out.⁣
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Regardless of what you learnt growing up and what others told you about it, you can actually choose what you want to experience in your life and you do not need anyone’s permission or approval.⁣
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You will feel like you do, but I promise you that you don’t.⁣
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❤️⁣

⁣⁣ In the last few weeks I’ve heard two of t

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In the last few weeks I’ve heard two of the most outrageous and ignorant things in a long time.⁣⁣
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The first was that 𝐰𝐨𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐞𝐦𝐩𝐨𝐰𝐞𝐫𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐧 𝐦𝐞𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐬𝐞 𝐝𝐚𝐲𝐬. This one was said by a white English young woman (and totally unaware of how privileged she is).⁣⁣
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The second was that we aren’t in the 50’s anymore and now there are laws protecting the LGBT community. 𝐒𝐨 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐫𝐞 𝐢𝐬 𝐧𝐨 𝐧𝐞𝐞𝐝 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐏𝐑𝐈𝐃𝐄 𝐦𝐨𝐧𝐭𝐡 𝐚𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞𝐲 𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐧’𝐭 𝐝𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐫𝐢𝐦𝐢𝐧𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐚𝐠𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐬𝐭 𝐚𝐧𝐲𝐦𝐨𝐫𝐞 𝐚𝐧𝐝 𝐚𝐫𝐞 𝐭𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐥𝐥𝐲 𝐰𝐞𝐥𝐥 𝐧𝐨𝐰. Said by a straight white woman.⁣⁣
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Are these people living on a different planet to the rest of us?⁣⁣
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I’ve not been so shocked and saddened at the same time in a long while.⁣⁣
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The next thing I hear better not be that racism is a thing of the past, cause that would break the camel’s back!⁣⁣
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Have you heard people say these things? Or am I the luckiest one?!⁣⁣

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Steffie Martin

doesn't fit in society's box for mums. She wants you to feel free to be whoever you want to be too.

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In a world where women are criticized for being this, not being that, too much like this and not enough like that, I want you to ignore it all. You get one go at life. Make it yours in every way you can.

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